Welcome to Your Twenties: The Ultimate “What Even Is This?” Chapter

Congrats. You’re officially out of teenager territory but still not quite the “adulting expert” your mom hopes for. As for myself, I was the professional pretender at being grown. Your twenties are basically a wild rollercoaster ride packed with endless “What now?” moments, accidental glow-ups, and a whole lot of figuring out who you actually are (spoiler: even you don’t have the full script yet).

This decade is messy, exciting, confusing, and kinda magical all at once. And guess what? You’re the author here. No rewrites by your ex or that weird college roommate allowed.

In this blog post, we’re diving into how to own this crazy chapter, squeeze every bit of juice out of your experiences, and co-write a story that’s 100% you, awkward moments, all.

Change: Happens as often as you should change your panties🩲 (but probably more)

Your twenties are basically a non-stop remix of “New City? New Job? New Major?” and yep, it can get messy. But here’s the tea: leaning into change is the secret sauce.

• Be Open to New Experiences: Whether it’s joining a random hobby group, switching gigs, or talking to actual new people (not just lurking on socials), every wild new experience writes a fresh page in your story.

  
  

• Fall Flat, Then Flex: Warning: stuff will go sideways. When it does, don’t just cry over spilled Vodka. Level up, learn, and come back with receipts.

  
  

Change is scary, sure, but it’s also where the glow-up happens. So buckle up, it’s gonna be a wild (and hilarious) ride.

Build Your Squad (No, Not Just for Job Stuff)

Networking isn’t just fancy talk for “get a job.” It’s about finding your people who actually get you. As we grow into adulthood, we often outgrow old environments and need fresh, inspiring connections. Whether through mentorship or friendship, surrounding yourself with people who reflect your growth, offer guidance, and expand your perspective can be the mirror and backbone you need. Sometimes, the support that shapes us most comes from outside the world we grew up in

• Attend Events: Workshops, pop-ups, or chill mixers—go where the people are. You never know who you’ll vibe with or what opportunity might come from a random convo.

  
  

• Use Social Media Wisely: Omg—LinkedIn isn’t the only way to grow professionally. Platforms like Lunchclub, Shapr, and Slack or Geneva communities help you connect with professionals in your field. Swipe-style networking and community-based chatrooms give you space to be seen, collaborate, and grow.

  
  

• Circle Back: Met someone cool? Shoot them a quick message or DM. Stay on their radar and keep the connection alive. A simple “Great meeting you!” goes a long way in building real connections.

  
  

Building a strong network can open doors you never knew existed.

What Actually Makes You Go “Yasss”?

Your Twenties Are Your Playground, so why not explore what actually lights you up?

• Experiment: Freelance gig? Volunteering abroad? Barista with a side hustle? Your twenties are made for experimenting. Every “maybe” teaches you something about your “hell yes.” You don’t need a 10-year plan. Just start where curiosity calls. Passion often shows up in the doing.

  
  

• Take The Class: Skillshare, Dance Class, that random pottery studio down the street—just try it. New skills = new doors, new people, and sometimes… a whole new version of you.

• Pause + Reflect: What actually makes you feel alive? What drains you? Grab a journal, record a voice note, or have a mid-shower epiphany while listening to Billie Eilish. You’d be surprised how life opens up when you honor your passions.

  
  

Discovering what lights you up can set you on a path to a career and life you actually vibe with.

Swipe right on self-care

Taking care of you isn’t optional, it’s everything.

• Move Your Body: Whether it’s dancing, walking, or that workout you actually like, keep it moving and fuel up with food that makes you feel good. Your body’s the OG MVP.

  
  

• You good, boo?: Don’t hesitate to seek help if you are feeling overwhelmed. Vent, chat with a therapist, or just take a breather and reset. Mental health is real health.

  
  

• Balance Is A Vibe: Work hard, yes, but don’t forget to unplug. Binge your fave show, hang with friends, or dive into a hobby that sparks joy. Recharging isn’t lazy, it’s necessary.

  
  

Your well-being? That’s the secret sauce to everything you want to build.

Set Goals (Because Wandering Aimlessly Gets Old)

Setting goals gives you direction.

• Short-Term Goals: What do you wanna crush in the next few months? Saving up for the ultimate friendcation (hello, beach vibes 🌴)? Learning how to cook more than instant noodles? Start there.

  
  

• Long-Term Goals: This could involve your career, relationships, or personal growth. Where do you see yourself in 5 or 10 years? CEO of your own vibe? Killing it in your dream job? Or just finally having a plant that’s still alive?

  
  

• Review and Remix: Check in on your goals like you check your socials. It’s totally fine to switch things up when life throws you a plot twist.

  
  

Goals = the cheat code to staying focused and actually making moves.

Build Your Bounce-Back Game

Life’s gonna throw curveballs, sometimes straight at your face. Being resilient means you don’t just lay there, you bounce like a pro.

• Stay Positive: Yeah, it sucks sometimes. But focusing on the wins (even the tiny ones, like getting out of bed) is your secret weapon.

  
  

• L’s Into Lessons: Made a mistake? Cool, now you’re basically a professional at not doing that again. Level up, glitch fixed.

  
  

• Squad Up: Find your hype crew—friends, fam, whoever’s got your back when life’s being a drama queen.

  
  

Bottom line? Resilience is your life hack for surviving the rollercoaster without losing your lashes.

Get Your Money Game Together (Future You Will Thank You)

Finances in your 20s? Kinda terrifying. But also kinda essential. Let's break it down without the financial advisor voice.

• Budget Like a Boss: Track your money so you don’t end up saying “where did it all go?” after one weekend and three iced lattes. Apps help. So does being honest about your DoorDash addiction.

  
  

• Save a Little (Even if You’re Broke-ish): Even $5 counts. That’s one less random Amazon purchase and one step closer to not crying at your bank account.

  
  

• Invest… Once You Google What That Means: It’s giving long-term glow-up. Learn the basics now so your future self can be soft-launching a comfy life with passive income. Maybe you're the badass that will be retired by age 40.

  
  

Having a money plan doesn’t mean you have to stop enjoying life. It just means you’ll still be eating when you're 35.

Stay Nosy (In a Good Way)

Curiosity didn’t actually kill the cat. It just made them interesting at parties.

• Read Stuff (Not Just Tweets): Books (like my book wink wink), articles, and blogs can expose you to new ideas.

  
  

• Certified Curious™: Don’t know something? Google it, ask it, overshare about it. Curiosity is how you go from “Huh?” to “I got this.”

  
  

• Catch Flights and Perspectives: If you can, go places. Even if it’s just the next city over. New people, new food, new thoughts = main character energy.

  
  

Curious people make better storytellers. Let’s be real, we’re all just trying to have a great origin story.

Find Your People (Not Just Vibe, But Thrive)

You are who you text at 2am. So choose wisely.

• Quality Over Quantity: You don’t need 100 “hey bestie”s. One or two real ones who get your weird voice notes and emotional spirals? Priceless.

  
  

• Talk It Out (Like Grown-ish Adults): Oversharing is in. Ghosting is out. Be honest, even if it’s just “I’m spiraling but it’s fine.”

  
  

• Be the Friend You’d Want During a Breakdown at Trader Joe’s: Support your crew. Hype them. Send memes. Venmo them for coffee when they’re down bad. The little things matter.

  
  

The right people = built-in therapy, hype squad, and soft place to land.

Main Character Moment: Reflect on it all

Take a sec to zoom out and realize... you’ve been through some things. Growth? Yeah, it’s giving character development.

• Journal Like No One’s Reading (Because They Aren’t): Spill the tea to your notebook. Rant, cry, romanticize your Tuesday. It’s cheaper than therapy and oddly therapeutic.

  
  

• Celebrate Milestones: Acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small. Got out of bed? Iconic. Sent that scary email? Legend. Reward yourself like you just won an Oscar.

  
  

• Look Back, But Don’t Spiral: Reflecting on your past helps future you stop repeating the same chaos. Growth is messy, but at least it’s your mess.

  
  

Taking time to reflect = realizing how far you’ve come... and laughing at who you thought you’d marry at 19.

You’re the Main Character… Now Grab the Pen ✍️

Plot twist: You’re not just in the story. You’re writing it, alongside life’s chaotic screenwriter, of course.

• Take Control: Your choices = the plot. Choose what aligns with your vibe, not what looks good on someone else’s highlight reel.

  
  

• Be Real, Not Rehearsed: No one else can do you like you. Be the unfiltered, full-version, not the “for the feed” version.

  
  

• Ride The Rollercoaster: Life isn’t one straight-line montage. Embrace the weird chapters, awkward plot points, and glow-up arcs. That’s the good stuff.

  
  

Writing your own story means steering the narrative, even if your GPS says, “Recalculating,” every five minutes. Just keep driving chile no matter how many detours it takes....

Dear Twenty-Somethings: It’s Your Messy, Glorious Era

Your twenties are basically a chaotic coming-of-age film, but you’re both the main character and the intern holding it all together with iced coffee and vibes.

Embrace the plot twists. Make weird friends. Try stuff that might flop or pop off. This is your time to experiment, grow, spiral a little, and glow up anyway.

Your story? Still in draft mode. So scribble, erase, rewrite—but make it yours. No one else can live it like you.

So good luck out there. The world’s lowkey chaotic, but it’s also waiting for your storyline. Make it unskippable.